“You catch more flies with honey than you do vinegar.”
In all areas of life, compliments, positive energy and consideration will always get us farther than being self-centered, fault-finding and having negative energy. The world we live in is the same for everyone. But the way we see it depends on the eyes we’re looking through. Everyone and everything on this planet is imperfect, but there are TONS of beautiful and amazing things that deserve our praise and our attention. If we decide to ignore something breath-taking because of a little piece of dust sitting on a beautiful flower, maybe it’s time we second guess what our eyes are focused on.
OF COURSE it’s okay for constructive criticism. It would be completely unrealistic if we acted as if everything that has ever existed is the BEST THING EVER and that these things have no room for improvement. Because that’s simply untrue. There will ALWAYS be room for improvement. I guess what I’m trying to say is: don’t take away from something that truly deserves compliment because you notice a tiny blemish. The world is full of tiny blemishes. And if you do decide to call out every tiny blemish, you miss the beautiful big picture, and you will suddenly become that negative, fault-finding person.
Don’t ignore the bad, but most importantly, don’t ignore the good. We as people need love and we need to know our efforts are appreciated. We need to hear that we've done a job well done and we need to know our work is not in vain. Sometimes all we need is a little reassurance that we’re doing something right. And not only are compliments nice to hear, they're also nice to give. Knowing that you put a smile on someone's face or just knowing you truly had something nice to say to someone can also make your day brighter! Being positive makes you feel positive, too.
What we see is our decision
We as people have a big influence on others. We are also the tools for giving compliments and letting others know we appreciate and notice them.
We are either the honey or the vinegar in the end. It’s our choice and we only have our eyes to see through. Ask yourself: what will I choose to see today?